Saturday, November 27, 2010
"J" is for Judging Others, Too Much I Think
Is it the bullied child for taking things too seriously, the bullies for being so cruel, the bus driver that ignores the bad behaviour on the bus, the school officials for not penalizing the bullies, the parents of the bullies for not teaching their children how to treat others or the parents of the bullied not teaching their children how to stick up for themselves or that nothing anyone can say or do to them should matter because they are good and kind and that they are loved?
Or is blaming anyone just judging people all over again?
Who do people think they are to be judging anyone anyway, why do they think they have that right? Don't the old sayings "take a walk in someone else's shoes" or "those who live in glass houses shouldn't throw rocks" mean anything anymore? Or for those of us that believe in God, why don't we follow the Golden Rule and "Treat others as we would like to be treated ourselves"? Or like my Mom used to say "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all"
There are so many more ways and places to judge people nowadays. The social networks, forums and chat rooms run rampant with judgements. People tearing eachothers clothes, looks, beliefs or ideas down seem almost common place in these days with so much technology.
Honestly I find it all depressing. I think there are better things for us to do with our time and voices, more constructive things, more positive things. So the next time you want to put someone down, think how you would feel if someone did it to you, touched on a vulnerability of yours, and stay in that unempowered moment for a few seconds and feel the weakness it provides.
There is a quote from an Unknown source that I find fitting for this topic: "The tongue weighs practically nothing, but so few can hold it". I urge you to be that someone that does.